I
would like to take a moment to work on a definition of “Exceptional”,
since I know that phrase might make some people cringe. There is a loud
set of voices out there who object to the “over-exceptionalizing” of
America’s kids. On the one hand, you have educational researchers
condemning Howard Gardner’s theory of Multiple Intelligences as
impractical and unscientific (people like this, for example). On the other, you’ve got English teacher (and son of the legendary biographer) David McCullough Jr.’s commencement address: You’re Not Special.
And with a faltering economy, the standard line towards
education and child-rearing has become: but will he get a job?
In a climate like this, someone like me had better have a good answer to the question: what do you mean by exceptional?
Fortunately, I think that I do.
My
own school experiences involved a series of reversals as I tried to
keep up with the standards of each academic institution. I attended the private
elementary school where my grandmother taught. It was a great school and
she was (and is) a great teacher, and I was a motivated learner. I won
prizes for reading and writing and made academics a priority.
In
the seventh grade, I transferred to the (well-regarded) public
junior/senior high school in the small town where my family had recently
bought a house. It was a good school with good teachers and a strong
tradition, but within a few days there I sniffed out a change in values.
The highly-regarded students here were athletes, not scholars. I
shifted my priorities 100% to athletics and, over the course of about a
year, became a “jock”.
I
played football and track and was able to, more or less, fit in.
Academics were a permanent afterthought. I took mid-level courses and
managed to avoid any serious attention to my learning until the 11th
grade, when I made exceptionally high scores on the SAT.
It
caused a minor sensation among my friends and teachers, who had grown
used to an image of me as a pleasant, academically unserious jock.
Suddenly, I stood out. Admittedly, I liked the attention, but I had also
been trying to avoid it and it was an uncomfortable time for me.
Many
of the football players “did” Spring Track under the coercion of the
coaches, who wanted us to be in the weight room and staying fit for the
fall season. I was with the big boys, the “Tankers”, pretending to throw
the shot put competitively but mainly just hanging out on the green
grass in the middle of the track, enjoying the New England summers and
watching the more serious athletes compete.
It was much more of this:
than this:
One
afternoon, shortly after my SAT scores were publicized in the local
newspaper, I was at “practice”, sitting on a chair in the middle of the
track. The school principal, a kind and slightly awkward man with an
unfashionable beard for the time, showed up at practice. It was hot, in
early June, and I remember watching him walk across the lawn in his suit
and jacket, looking distinctly uncomfortable. As he made the long walk
across the green oval, I had a sinking feeling that he was coming to see
me. I remember how long that walk seemed, and how much I dreaded his
attention.
He
finally made it over and, when I realized that he was making it over for
me, I got out of my chair and made a token effort to meet him. I don’t
remember if we’d ever talked before, but he shook my hand and said he’d
heard about my test scores. We had a few minutes of halting conversation
before he said, with an ironic candor that I’ll never forget: well, considering how well you did on the test, maybe you should consider pursuing...that...rather than continuing on with [and here he took a hilarious, meaningful glance towards the shot put ring] this.
I
didn’t know what exactly “that” was, but I had already come to the same
general idea myself. I’d stopped pursuing opportunities to play college
football and instead focused on finding a college where I could thrive
academically. I was lucky enough to find one, and luckier still to be
able to attend while accruing a student loan debt that has been only
marginally crippling over the past eleven years.
In
college I went to the other extreme, returning my focus to academics
after a few months of adjustment during my Freshman year. Like in
elementary school, I won academic prizes and took pride in my academic
accomplishments. We were all Liberal Arts majors, there, though, and
after four years, if you didn’t want to go on to law school or on to further academia,
the world of work and commerce was still something of a cipher.
I
got lucky, though. I responded to an ad in the Santa Fe newspaper for a
part-time job at a boarding school for students who learned differently
(I truly had no idea what this was) and got a call from the
Academic Director, asking if I wanted to apply for a teaching job
instead.
Still
unsure that I wanted to be a teacher, I was convinced that I wanted to
work at this school by the drive up. Nestled deep in the Pecos
Wilderness outside of Santa Fe, with the Pecos River running along the
road to school and across the front lawn of the school itself, this was
truly one of the most beautiful spots I’d ever seen. No matter what the job is like, I told myself, I want to work here.
Of
course, the job was terrific. The students had a grab bag of learning
disabilities: attention disorders, dyslexia, dysgraphia, non-verbal
learning disability, autism spectrum disorders, and more. Some of them
didn’t have any diagnoses at all. What they all had, though, were
incredible minds, personalities, and spirits. And I started to realize,
even in that confused and confusing first year of teaching, that success
for me meant finding ways to enable them to experience success. Which
didn’t mean “dumbing-down” content to their level. It mean bringing the
content to them in an appropriate package.
It meant letting the attention kids do
something first, and then read about it. It meant giving the spectrum
kids everything in lists and bullet points, and letting them utilize the
same. It meant letting the dyslexic kids listen to everything the rest
of us read and speak everything the rest of us wrote. It meant getting
to know you, as a person and a learner, and finding out what information
looked like to you.
Developing
a method with these kinds of kids took years of experience and lots of
exposure to great teachers and colleagues. One of the best things I did
was take classes at the University of New Mexico with a woman named
Elizabeth Nielsen, who taught her graduate classes by doing with them
every single activity she advised them to do with their own students.
Only after we tried something did we ever discuss the theory behind it.
I’ve
worked with students who are learning disabled, gifted, and both. I’ve
taught them English, Reading, Math, Science, Chemistry, Physics, and
Biology. I’ve guided them through career searches and on river trips.
I’ve had them in my home and visited them in theirs. There are not a lot
of general descriptors you can apply to them, although there are some
general strategies you can employ in helping them grow.
Etymologically, to be an exception means to stand out.
These individuals may sometimes do things that are incredibly
illogical. They may be, at times, frustrating, exhilarating, boring,
petty, noble, stupid, and brilliant. But they are absolutely
exceptional, they are absolutely special, and they absolutely stand out.
Sometimes they are outstanding, and sometimes they are just “out,
standing” (ha!), but this is the group of students who need extra
attention. And they deserve it, too, because they’re also the group of
individuals who will change the world.